Sistaz & Suitors
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Pastor Esther
1 year 1 month ago

When does the meeting hold and where? If I want to attend from Lagos how can I locate you?

Admin
1 month 9 days ago

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Adegor Josephine
28 days 13 hours ago

I want to say a very big THANK YOU to Pastor Tayo for yesterday’s teaching. It was quite interactive as always. And to you Pastor Dupe, for taking out the time to explain 1Cor 7:36 in depth to me. A lot of people have and are going astray because of their twisted understanding of this scripture. THANK YOU Pastor.

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Lilian
28 days 13 hours ago

I’m blessed by this candid advice. Thanks so very much panel (men of God). God will continue to uphold this ministry and it shall be a blessing to many souls. GOD BLESS YOU IN JESUS NAME.

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Lilian Peremoboere C.
28 days 13 hours ago

I really want to appreciate God upon your life and ministry. I am born again, I am 32yrs, I lost my relationship 2yrs ago and since then no man has asked my hand in marriage, intact no man comes around to even talk about relationship with me, if a man comes into my life all he will demand for, is for us to be just friends. I have prayed n fasted, I’ve done series of deliverance in Mfm for God to intervene in my life and for the right man to locate me but can still figure out what’s wrong… Read more »

Admin
24 days 16 hours ago

Thank you Peremoboere for sending in your question and expressing your sincere concerns. Let us start by saying losing a relationship is not the end of life, sometimes rocking the boat early before marriage may be a life saver from some relationships that could later become abusive after marriage. You have also mentioned some steps you have taken like going for “deliverance” from whatsoever has been preventing you from getting married. We must say that you have been working too hard to change your condition but remember that you are a child of God and you have the blessing upon… Read more »

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Anonymous
28 days 13 hours ago

I have a friend who studies abroad, I want to get married to her in one of her holidays here in Nigeria then she goes back to finish the studies. How do I go about marriage counseling in the case?

Admin
24 days 16 hours ago

Dear Mr. Anonymous,
your desire to get marriage counsel before getting into a marriage relationship is the right thing. We recommend that you talk with your pastor and get directions on how your local church does that. If you are a member of The Carpenter's Church, we recommend that you schedule an appointment to speak with any of the Pastors and you will be guided accordingly. We cannot give you a detailed guidance here because different local churches have different guidelines concerning the conduct of relationships.

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Alafagha Luke
28 days 13 hours ago

a none member of the church to propose, do i prospose before informing pastor or pastor before proposing ?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

For the answer to this question, please check the TCC handbook at this link where you will find all the information you need. Also bearing in mind what your own church teaches and practices concerning relationships. Thank you.

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J.O
28 days 13 hours ago

The book of 1 Cor 7:10-11 says that “The married should not depart from his/her spouse and if he/she departs, must remain unmarried”. Does that mean that if I find my wife to be unfaithful (catch her red-handed) or she becomes unbearable to live with and I divorce her, can I re-marry another or is death the only reason I have to re-marry?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

In reply to the issue of divorce you wrote about, I would like for you to know that the issue of divorce in the Church of Jesus Christ is something that should be handled on a case by case basis, because no two marriages are the same. Realise divorce is not the best option at all in resolving marital disputes irrespective of what the source of the dispute may be; but it is not the “unpardonable sin” either. On the issue of dating, let me begin by defining dating: “to make an appointment with and go out with a member… Read more »

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J.O
28 days 13 hours ago

Is it proper to date someone before proposing or accepting a marriage proposal. Is it possible for me to fall in love and approach a sister who I have been observing and admiring in The Carpenter’s Church without first having a “formal relationship” with her e.g. getting to know her name, where she comes from, her family, what she likes and hates, just to see if we can be compatible. I am quite sure such a sister will not just accept such a proposal coming from a total “stranger” even if the brother says he’s a member of the church.

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Daniel
28 days 13 hours ago

What is the place of physical attraction in the choice of a life partner? Could God lead me to someone I am not attracted to physically?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

Daniel, in response to your question about the place of physical attraction in the choice of a life partner, we would like to say that sex was ordained by God to be enjoyed within the confines of marriage. It becomes therefore imperative that if you must enjoy sex in marriage then you should be sexually attracted to the person you wish to be married to. HOWEVER THAT SEXUAL ATTRACTION IS NOT EXPERIMENTED WITH UNTIL MARRIAGE. IT IS KEPT UNDER LOCK AND KEY UNTIL THE COUPLE IS MARRIED. We would recommend that you watch for the new series on Freshdew (www.freshdew.tv)… Read more »

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chinedu okeke c
28 days 12 hours ago

Must persons (believers) in courtship not exchange visits?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

Of course believers in courtship can and should exchange visits. However, it is not advisable to stay late as the “way of truth can be evil spoken of” if you do so. Also if during such visits, you are alone you should be real to leave the door open or go and sit outside if there is sexual tension rising in the atmosphere. If such situations reoccur then you can avoid visits and seek counsel especially if one person is placing sexual pressure on the other. There are many “common places” – fast food restaurant, church, friends home etc you… Read more »

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Rebecca Ebohon
28 days 12 hours ago

If one is dating a christian sister from another church. and they intend to get married in that other church, where would they be counselled? and if courtship period is 3 months in that other church while in TCC its 6 months, how many months will they court before getting married?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

For the answer to this question, please check the TCC handbook at this link where you will find all the information you need. Thank you.

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Danep Jonathan
28 days 12 hours ago

HEY Panel, I have a lady(born again) and we both love each other so much that i was ready to marry her but she said she can’t marry me until ma mum isn’t around(dead) before she can marry me. I asked her the reason why? and she said bcoz she does’t want to have a mother-in-law around. But we both love each other so much. WHAT DO I DO?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

This is ridiculous! Don't go ahead with the lady. Saying that she can't marry you until your mother is dead is as good as telling you that she can't marry you. Does she expect you to kill your mother? Satan is the one who kills; she doesn't want to turn you into Satan does she? As it is, your options are to wait for your mother to die before you marry her; or forget her and find someone else. You want to take the second option. It is the sensible and spiritual call to make. Saying she doesn't want to… Read more »

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Audience
28 days 12 hours ago

Question 1 from Audience to The Panel on Sistaz And Suitors – 27/09/09
I am born again. My family and friends are on my neck to marry. I am waiting on God but the pressure from them is so much match making. But they feel that I am not serious. I want a man that fears God. What do I do? I was even brought here by family (which I am grateful for, on this occasion).

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

Let me begin by saying that you must ALWAYS recognize the fact that you are born again, a new creature in Christ Jesus (2 Cor 5:17) and that your husband-to-be MUST also profess to be born again with fruit (character) to show for it. Getting married to a man who is not born again is not an optional thing for a Christian lady because there is really no fellowship between light and darkness (2 Corinth.6:14). Secondly, the idea of your family and friends match making or telling you who to marry is totally wrong. They are your loved ones and… Read more »

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Audience
28 days 12 hours ago

Question 2 from Audience to The Panel on Sistaz And Suitors – 27/09/09This man told me he is born gain but has an addiction with cigarette
smoking. My question is this: is he really born again? Should I accept
him and help him quit smoking?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

It is possible he is born again but has not been able to renew his mind in the area of cigarette smoking. You know a man gets born again in his spirit, but the change in his habits comes with a renewal of his mind- as he takes in God’s word and puts them into practice- where those habits are concerned. On whether you should accept him and help him quit smoking, it's not your duty to help him quit smoking; it takes the convicting power and work of the Holy Spirit to make him quit as he sees the… Read more »

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Audience
28 days 12 hours ago

Question 3 from Audience to The Panel on Sistaz And Suitors – 27/09/09
While treating the topic of worship and praise, I was made to understand that while worshiping I can prostrate in honor to God, but in some traditions as a male, you need to prostrate for the girl’s parents. Is it right?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

There is nothing wrong with it. There are some traditions that require that you do some form of obeisance some of them require that you bow and prostrate. What is important is the spirit and attitude with which it is done. You are not prostrating to girl’s parents as an act of worship. You are not worshipping them. You are simply respecting them in a language they understand and they require. That is not to say however, that if you are required to carry out certain cultural obligations or expectations that are adverse to the Word, you are meant to… Read more »

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Audience
28 days 12 hours ago

Question 4 from Audience to The Panel on Sistaz And Suitors – 27/09/09Can two believers who have AS & AS as genotypes stand in faith and get married against what family members think about it?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

The main issue to examine here is what the two believers believe (and have believed up until that time) concerning divine healing and health. The medical fact which the intending couple should not be oblivious of is that they could have children who are AA, AS or SS. Having children who are SS could be a real serious concern because of the medical implications of such a child. It is advisable that the couple is sincere and find out what each other really believes. They should not be “blinded” by love. Many a couple in this kind of situation forges… Read more »

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Audience
28 days 12 hours ago

Question 5 from Audience to The Panel on Sistaz And Suitors – 27/09/09
I am believing God for a husband but my mother wants me to marry from our tribe (Ikwerre). My elder sister has done their will and got married to an Ikwerre man. The man asking for my hand in marriage is from Delta and my mother rejected him. What do I do?N/B-He is a
believer. Is my mother the barrier or am I the barrier?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

God is the One you should believe for anything, including a spouse and nobody else. His fundamental standard for whom you could marry is that the person should be a born again Believer (2Cor 6:14). However, since every believer cannot be your spouse, you (not anyone else), as a child of God, have the God given permission to put in a request to Him about your preferences (e.g. maturity - spiritual or natural, tribe, height, complexion etc.) of the kind of spouse you would like to be married to. These preferences should not be cast in stone or steel or… Read more »

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Audience
28 days 12 hours ago

Question 6 from Audience to The Panel on Sistaz And Suitors – 27/09/09
I have witnessed several cases of marital problems where sex was the major cause. I want to ask: are there ways these sex related problems can be identified and addressed during courtship? In a case where both parties are not virgins, are they free to discuss their sexual experiences and fantasies?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

The answer to your first question is that during courtship, we, TCC, strongly advice as a matter of policy that intending couples go through the premarital classes where they get to learn fundamental scriptural principles on how to have a long, lasting and enjoyable marriage. And one of the lessons taught focuses on “Romance and Sex” which is indeed one of the fulcrums upon which marriage is set. In this lesson, they are taught about sex from the Word and given good Christian literature on this subject and they are mandated to read them. If there are any issues, questions… Read more »

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Rebecca Ebohon
28 days 12 hours ago

Dear Panel, Please respond to the below question, i have gone through the TCC handbook and the question is not answered satisfactorily. Please i need your input on this. Thanks.

If one is dating a christian sister from another church. and they intend to get married in that other church, where would they be counseled? and if courtship period is 3 months in that other church while in TCC its 6 months, how many months will they court before getting married?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

Thank you for the observation. We will go through the Handbook and ensure that it is clarified.

In response to your question, TCC expects that as long as one of the couple (brother or sister) is a member of TCC, the courtship should be a minimum of six months whether the wedding is in TCC or not. The couple should follow the right steps to inform the church immediately - if in further doubt, there is always a Pastor available to help.

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Rebecca Ebohon
28 days 12 hours ago

A guy played American lottery for a girl and she won, he processed her paper and she left but came back after 2 years to marry him and went back to USA. After another 2 years, the lady said she is not coming back to Nigeria again and the guy said he is not going to America. Both of them have agreed to divorce as the marriage is not working. My question is: Is it ok for them to divorce? and can they re-marry to other persons after their divorce?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

Divorce cases are best treated on case by case basis. We would prefer to deal with such situations when we have full disclosure. Thank you.

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Chinyere
28 days 12 hours ago

while i was in my teens, my mum told me that there is a curse in my family ie the female marry late and some have babies out of wedlock. My cousins and aunts confirmed this bcos just one had a proper marriage and the rest had babies out of wedlock. My question is this, I am born again and have refused to indulge in pre marital sex but aint still married.Could this CURSE THING be following me. I have listened to the message”HE CHANGED MY ROOT” but still no man in my life. However i must confess that almost… Read more »

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

There is nothing true about you being cursed. Whether or not there is a curse on your natural family is not the issue. The real issue is what family do you belong to? The day you got born again your roots changed and you became a member of the Household of God. That is what the Scripture teaches. There is no curse in that lineage. Only every spiritual blessing! Don't look for corroborating evidence from the wrong place. You need evidence that supports what you desire, not what you don't want. That is why you should not look at the… Read more »

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Nwanne
28 days 12 hours ago

How do we manage loneliness?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

Loneliness is a feeling of being alone. But as a child of God, that feeling is a lying feeling. The Bible says we walk by faith and not by sight [2 Cor 5:7]. That is we do not place reliance upon our feelings and senses when they go contrary to the truth of the Word of God. If you are born again, you are not alone. The Word of God makes this abundantly clear. God the Father has said He will never leave you nor forsake you [Heb 13:5]. Jesus said He is with you to the end of the… Read more »

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ada
28 days 12 hours ago

I care about a guy who doesnt know about my feelings and he’s got wat I’ve always desired yet there’s another guy who is coming around wit the intention of marrying me. I dont have any affection for him. please, wat do I do because I’ve been taught from church not to approach a guy.

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

As it is there are two men in the situation here and we assume you are born again and both men being considered here have the basic Biblical requirement of being born again. One man, you have feelings for and seemingly fits the profile of the kind of man you'd want to marry, but hasn't made a move towards you; and the other one you have no affection for, but has come to you. Sometimes, this is the case in relationships. Most ladies and gentlemen have what they are looking for in a potential spouse. Some of those desires are… Read more »

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ken
28 days 12 hours ago

how does one balance job haunting and church activities i really want to be active in church activities but trying to earn a living without a job is taking a lot out of me. thanks

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

It is God's desire that you find a job through which you will release your God-given potential and make money. It is equally His desire for you to belong to a local assembly (a Bible believing Church) and be a committed member there: attending Church services and being active in some department. In your bid to be active in Church while hunting for a job you need to have a balance. Don't use all your time desperately looking for a job to the point that you wear yourself out and you have no time for Church activities. He that believes… Read more »

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Newking Patience E.
28 days 12 hours ago

Wow! TCC is blessed. I praise God for my Pastors – YOU ROCK!!!! I’m mighty glad to be a part of this great revolution. Sistaz and Suitors has been everything I ever wished for in a singles meeting. I’ve been taught to Paint a picture while waiting instead of been anxious; learnt that with God all things are possible through the movie – Facing the giants. I feel good about myself where I should have been worried that my younger sister is married and I’m not (smiles). God bless you Pastor Cee and Pastor Kech as well as Pastors Chris,… Read more »

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Ada
28 days 12 hours ago

Hmmmm!!! thanks a million for your prompt response to my question. Its like a mighty rock has been lifted up off my shoulders. God bless you richly. Deliverance tastes really good you know!

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Dumkelechukwu
28 days 12 hours ago

Hi, I am in courtship with a brother that really doesnt have anything at the moment, and by that i mean he is just starting out and bearly having a enough for savings. however, he is a faithful sower and tither, and loves God whole heartedly and sometimes i wonder why things havent picked up as they ought to. Could it be that there is something he isnt doing, that’s why his breakthrough hasnt come? I’m i in the wrong staying in this relationship believing things would work out because most times i get thought bombs that ‘he may not… Read more »

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

Hello Dumkelechukwu, In response to the issue(s) you wrote about we would like for you to know that God, our Father, is not a schizophrenic who says a thing and does another. When He speaks about a subject more than once He only emphasizes what He has already said; He doesn't contradict himself. You should learn to reject thought bombs that come to you which are contrary to your expectation which is in line with God's Word. And the way to reject such thought bombs is by speaking out loud what your benefits and expectations are in Him. The thing… Read more »

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vivian
28 days 12 hours ago

I WANT TO THANK THE PANEL FOR THEIR EFFORT IN PROVIDING INTERESTING ANSWERS TO THE QUESTIONS, I PRAY GOD TO GIVE YOU MORE WISDOM TO ENABLE YOU CARRYOUT THIS WORK.

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Chika
28 days 12 hours ago

Dear Panel,
i have a problem. i am not a graduate yet but i am intending to be one. everyman that comes my way with intention of marriage insist that i must be a graduate before making any plans. up to six serious guys have come and gone. please what do i do?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

You say that you are not a graduate but one day you intend to be one. This could mean you are currently an undergraduate, you are seeking admission at the moment, or you are yet to seek admission. It is clear that every man who has come around you with marriage in view has it as their requirement that their spouse must be a graduate. That desire is not wrong; neither is it unfounded. They must have their reasons why they want it that way. For instance, they may want their wife to be on the same intellectual and educational… Read more »

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Nne
28 days 12 hours ago

Dear Panel
Someone new just came in to my life but i have fears at the back of my mind. saw blue movies and slight traces of violence like raisin his voice for no obvious reason. he claims to have been born again and grew up in a good Christian home but anytime we spend time together, i feel alone..i dont know what to do..am not a member of ur church..this forum was suggested to me by a good friend and colleague

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

Your friend and colleague definitely has your good interests at heart by informing you this forum. We thank God for His giving us this opportunity to help you. If this man you say has come into your life has blue movies in his possession, then it is right to say he is into pornography. Also, if he raises his voice [at you] for no obvious reason, then he is most likely given to violence. You don't want a husband hooked on pornography anymore than you want a man with a turbulent temper and given to violence owing to outburst of… Read more »

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Nne
28 days 12 hours ago

please i had previously sent in a question..i am so concerned about walking with God. God specifically gave me a scripture as regards my husband. please i dont want my full name published. how do i know how to align my self with specific direction?

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goodluck
28 days 12 hours ago

dear panel, I am in a relationship with a girl and we both agreed for marriage but she said I should not go to see her family that all she knows is that I should go and see her pastor. In this case what should I do?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

You really need to find out what she means. If what she means is that you need to see her pastor first, then that may make some sense especially if in her local assembly, the pastor is involved at the stage when relationships commence. If in her local assembly, no such policy exists, it is still strongly advised to still see her pastor for a number of reasons. The pastor stands in the place of spiritual oversight where she is concerned and needs to be aware. In that respect, he is like a responsible father who wants to know who… Read more »

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Chika Ikeorji
28 days 12 hours ago

Thank u so much for answering my question. i receive favour to comply to what you have said. God bless you all and enrich you with more wisdom and inspiration. thank u so much!!!!!

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ghomi
28 days 12 hours ago

I wanna ask if there’s something i’m doing wrong.i get more advances from married men than from single brothers and its so annoying.most single guys that can come around just want to jump into bed. i’ve been a believer for a while and always believed in God’s principle on courtship, but with all this i’m getting scared.i need advice.

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

You may be doing something wrong; you may not be doing something wrong. There are times a lady attracts the attention of both married and single men because she is loose. But it is not always the case. Some men are just lecherous and they'll go after any female. There are cases when the lady is doing nothing wrong; it's the men who are being used as a means of temptation. A good example would be Potiphar's wife who made advances at Joseph [Genesis 39]. She made the advances to Joseph, who refused and ultimately had to flee. So don't… Read more »

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Peter Etim
28 days 12 hours ago

I believe every good thing comes from God and we need to walk in His Act and statute to be properly guided within His spirit that dwell in us. Is there any scriptural backing to start up a relationship with a girl? Also, what are the scriptural backing when you are attracted to a girl you have not known before and you intend getting close to her? What are the scriptural backing of choosing a wife?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

It appears that your question has 3 parts to it as follows: The Scriptural backing [guidelines] on how to start up a relationship with a girl or lady; The Scriptural backing [guidelines] on how to go about a lady you are attracted and have not known before but you intend getting close to her; and The Scriptural backing [guidelines] on choosing a wife For a Christian starting a relationship with a lady must be with marriage in view, therefore those guidelines on how to start a relationship with a lady will inform your choice of a wife. Thus, we'll treat… Read more »

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Peter Godson Ejiofor
28 days 12 hours ago

Pastor pls I want to know how I can be convinced if a lady really loves me and if she will be ready to settle down with me considering the fact that I am a christian and intimacy is not allowed and secondly the bible made it clear that the heart is wicked. I need answer urgently. What is the characteristic of a wife material?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

You can be convinced that a lady loves you by her word and actions. As it is, it is the man who makes moves towards a lady, for it is a man who finds a wife [Proverbs 18:22]. That requires that a man has knowledge of what he is “looking for.” When a man motions towards a lady, it may take time for her to respond to his overtures. This is why a man needs to woo a lady. In the process of speaking to a lady, a man will know if the lady is interested because her words and… Read more »

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Oshuntoye Oladapo
28 days 12 hours ago

TCC, i like your blog and the answers you gave to the so many questions raised. keep up the good work.

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

Thank you Oshuntayo. Our goal is to be relevant & practical and we trust that by God’s grace we will continue to be just that.

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ghomi
28 days 12 hours ago

when do you notify church of your relationship. especially when you’ve just started dating?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

Hello Ghomi,

The answer to your question can be found in the Church Handbook. The handbook can be viewed by simply clicking this link: TCC Handbook.

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susan
28 days 12 hours ago

pls i need urgent answers to this questions as they have been weighing me down. 1. I’m a born again sister and I’m believing God for marriage but all the brothers that come my way are catholic!i keep avoiding them but the pressure is getting too much. is it right for me to accept a catholic guy’s proposal? 2. my mother keeps insisting I marry from my tribe(Ijaw) which i do not mind because I’m not too keen about the tribe thing, but i keep coming across Igbo guys, is God trying to tell me something or am i reading… Read more »

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

Hello Susan,

Your question here will require a very detailed response and so I would suggest that you see one of the Assistant Pastors promptly if you are a member of TCC. If not, we would gladly send a detailed reply to your email box.

Kindly confirm which option would suit you best. Thank you.

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Emi
28 days 12 hours ago

I WANT TO KNOW IF IT IS POSSIBLE FOR ONE TO GET MARRIED WITHOUT HAVING PREMARITAL SEX? BY NEXT YEAR I WILL BE 30 AND I AM STILL A VIRGIN, I INTEND TO REMAIN A VIRGIN TILL I GET MARRIED BUT I FIND IT DIFFICULT TO FIND A GUY WHO WANT TO HAVE A PURE RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT SEX . THIS HAS KEPT ME IN A CLOSE DOOR. IS THERE TRULY A MAN OUT THERE WHO WOULD WANT TO GET MARRIED TO A VIRGIN?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

It is very possible to get married as a virgin, or if you were not a virgin at marriage, it is possible to get married without having premarital sex. That is what the Bible teaches. Your state as a virgin at almost 30 is a testimony, and you should thank God for it. Going to your marriage bed as a virgin is something to be thankful for. Virginity is not a stigma; it is not something to be ashamed of. Contrary to what the world would want you to think and believe, virginity – for men and women, is a… Read more »

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Minini a. j.
28 days 12 hours ago

sistaz and suitors i think is a tool that will enable us position ourselves for God’s best but i will suggest that, the time should be extended so that more questions and answers will be accommodated.

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

Thank you for appreciating what God is doing at Sistaz & Suitors. Your suggestion will be passed onto the appropriate quarters. We will continue to trust God though that, with or without the extension of time, by His Spirit we will continue to maximise the time we have together and we will always leave the meeting better than we came in.

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Marvel
28 days 12 hours ago

Pastors, Pls i want to ask a question, Am in a clean relationship with this guy, but before i knew him he had 2 sons but did not get married 2 d mother of his kids now the lady has walked out on both her kids and their dad. This guy is asking for my hand in marriage and i want 2 consent becos i know i truly love him and he loves me too. i sincerely need ur advice pastors.

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

The guy who has asked for your hand in marriage is not married to the lady with whom he had two children. Both of them did not get married to each other. This means that there is no relationship binding between them and there's no commitment they have to each other. What were common to both of them were the children they had together. Now that he is interested in you and according to you both of you truly love each other, and he has proceeded to ask for your hand in marriage, you need to answer the following questions.… Read more »

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ifeoma obidike
28 days 12 hours ago

Dear pastor, i live in lagos and i got to know about TCC from a friend at work. I am in my final year in school and i have been in a relationship with a christian brother for about two years now. When i met him, i was an emotional mess and he ministered the word to me and within months i was back on my feet again and he told me he wanted a relationship that would lead to marriage.At this time,he was a strong christian and i was just a church goer.that’s how we started. it was pure… Read more »

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

It is good that this gentleman has been of help to you by ministering the Word to you. But after that, he grew to like and love you, and with that came physical liking. When a man and a lady are in relationship they are in love and their bodies are strongly attached to each other. If there is no sexual desire between them, there is no point in them getting married. That explains why there is a strong sexual desire between you both. But if you don't know how to However, that does not justify you both having sex.… Read more »

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ken
28 days 12 hours ago

I`m presently in Benin and I miss TCC so much, I would like you to recommend a church here where I can worship, while I believe God for a job in Port Harcourt. Though I`m not regular in church anymore, can I still join a department since I normally come to town once a month? Thanks Ken

Admin
24 days 18 hours ago

We advise to log on to http://www.freshdew.tv and you will find how to locate a Church outside Port Harcourt. It is very doubtful if any Department in Church may admit you because of your current schedule. However, there are some Departments that may find you useful. Examples include the Cleaning Team and Gardening Team. These Departments meet every Saturday on Greenville to do their work. If you speak with the leaders during the Screening Exercise and they are minded to admit you, then you may serve in those kinds of departments because they are not so time consuming and do… Read more »

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Ohaka Obinuchi
28 days 11 hours ago

I am so happy for a program like sistaz and suitors that God is using to reach out to his people at a time such as this when the whole system is after ungodly things. I pray that God continually bless the panel and give them more insights to answer the questions that are being asked. This is good stuff and as I keep reading through this I'm getting inspiration and direction for my life.
God bless you.

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Onyige,Egumah
28 days 11 hours ago

THANK GOD ITS HERE AT LAST, AN AVENUE FOR SINGLES THAT ARE WHOLE IN CHRIST TO EXPRESS THEIR CHALLENGES IN A WORLD WHERE SINGLE HOOD IS VIEWED AS UNBECOMING.

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TIMI
28 days 11 hours ago

I have two suitors. The two are born again but one of them is more committed to church activities, the other one is not(but pays his tithe regulary and sow seeds) his excuses are the nature of this job.and always tell me he wants to get married to me. but financially things are not ok yet.and am in love with him.but the one that is committed to church activities has not said anything about marriage but keeps telling me how much he cares about me.what do i do becos I am a bit confuse.

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

There is no need to be confused. A man proposes, but it is the lady who gets to choose who she wants to get married to. As it stands today, only one person has proposed marriage to you. So you only have one suitor, that is, the brother who has proposed marriage to you. The other brother who says he likes you but hasn't formally proposed marriage to you hasn't yet shown his intention to make a commitment to you. He may plan to get there, and telling you he cares for you may be his way of gradually leading… Read more »

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Timi Asiya
28 days 11 hours ago

I will like to know the procedure in getting the pastorate informed of being engaged with a male member of another church? Thanks.

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

When a single lady in TCC receives a proposal from a brother whether or not he's a member of TCC, she is expected to inform the pastors of this proposal before she accepts the proposal of the brother. If the brother is a member of TCC, the pastors would be aware of the proposal and they would have called the sister before then, because he is expected to have informed the pastors of his intention beforehand. If the brother is not a member of TCC, then the sister is expected to inform the pastors about it before she accepts the… Read more »

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shammy
28 days 11 hours ago

I am born gay, i love God, but i still commit the act of homosexuality. what should i do?

Admin
24 days 19 hours ago

Nobody is born gay. This is probably the foremost truth that must be ingrained into anyone's consciousness before they receive true and lasting deliverance from homosexuality. Homosexuality is a lie of the Devil that they there is nothing wrong in feeling sexual attraction and deriving sexual satisfaction from members of the same sex. If indeed you are born again, and have confessed the lordship of Christ, then in Christ Jesus you have been set free from the power of sin and Satan (Romans 6:14; Colossians 1:12-13). It is left for you to exercise your authority in Christ and renew your… Read more »

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ruyadan
28 days 11 hours ago

my question is, being in PortHarcourt for some time now, I have come to understand one thing that makes me to wander if really believers follow the foot steps of Jesus Christ. as christian is it good to base your mind on “religious, language and culture?

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24 days 18 hours ago

Ruyadan, sorry, your question is not clear.

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