I really bless God that I'm a part of this great functioning family. From Sistars and Suitors, a good foundation for building a home was set and further strengthened here in the Mothars collection. Delivery time for me was a sweet adventure as I had reported in the office that day before going to the hospital for routine check. The doctor said 'madam, do you know you are in labour? You are already 4cm gone!!!! That's how I was taken to the delivery room where in 4 hours time I put to bed (its my first baby - the next will be better). God is awesomeeeee. Thank you Pastors for the WORD!!! spoken by God through you.
patricia C. wrote on 02-07-2011
Dear Pastors, I want to say that This forum has really blessed me and my family, Thank you so much. Please can you help me expatiate on the headings one has to consider in creating a family budget.
The Panel replied patricia C. on 2011-08-18
Thank you very much for this opportunity.
The truth is that there is no one best budget that can fit every family. So what has been put together for you here is a guide to enable you fashion your unique family budget depending on the uniqueness of your home needs. Remember that items on the list have to be mutually derived and agreed upon by your spouse. Notice the budget shows the source of the budget income and the expenditure based on the income. It is important that you include all possible categories of expenditure. If a category is not relevant for the month, simply put a dash there. Should there be “discrepancies” in the execution, they should be handled together with utmost maturity, sincerity and love.
FAMILY BUDGET FOR THE MONTH OF:
BUDGET INCOME
SOURCE OF BUDGET INCOME
(A) Husband:
(B) Wife :
TOTAL BUDGET INCOME:
EXPENDITURE
S/NO
EXPENDITURE EXPENDITURE ITEMS:
AMOUNT (NGN)
1
Tithe
2
Offerings
3
Rent
4
Fees
5
Feeding
6
Gifts To Extended Family Members
7
Allowances
8
Maintenance
9
Savings
10
Investments
11
Miscellaneous
Oke Ekere wrote on 25-05-2011
Pastor Charles often says that what we have in us shows up when situation come against us therefore be careful what you allow in. To this I can say the Family sessions have enriched me greatly such that certain situations in my life meet preparation. When I hear about certain situations individuals are going through I can’t help but to count my blessings as I appreciate my store house where am rooted. Am a victor and not a victim because of these meetings by His grace.
Last year Pastor Nkechi took us through a series on sexuality in kids just before one of my son left for the Boarding School. I appreciated the lessons even more when issues about homosexuality and pornography arose in my Son's School. What was deposited in him by the grace of God is keeping him through. God sent that those messages for us as parents, for as many that have listened to message they have the right stuff deposited in them.
These Family meetings have shaped my Family life in no measure. Thank God for the opportunity and the vessels he has used to touch lives.
ADA wrote on 15-12-2010
DEAR ANONYMOUS, I HAD TO JUST DROP IN THIS COMMENT THOUGH I'M QUITE SHY COS ITS NEW TO ME. I MARRIED AS A VIRGIN SO KNEW NADA ABOUT WHAT TO EXPECT. AFTER OUR LAST MOTHARS COLLECTION, WHERE THE TOPIC OF ORGASM WAS DISCUSSED, I BEGAN TO LOOK FORWARD TO IT BUT IT NEVER CAME UNTIL 4 DAYS AGO. HOW DID IT HAPPEN? I DECIDED TO JUST LET MYSELF GO AND FLOW WITH MY HUSBAND. AS I SOUGHT WAYS TO GIVE HIM PLEASURE WHILE WE WERE AUDIBLY COMMUNICATING.....BEFORE I KNEW IT, HEAVEN CAME DOWN! SUCH PLEASURE!!! IT MAY NOT BE THE SAME PROCESS FOR YOU BUT THE BOTTOM LINE IS - RELAX AND LET GO OF ALL INHIBITIONS AND PREVIOUS EXPECTATIONS. YOU ARE CERTAINLY NEXT WITH A HUGE MIRACLE. . . . .
Mrs. P. wrote on 09-12-2010
I'm eternally grateful being a part of this wonderful family.
I miscarried my first pregnancy because the PT result was negative while I was undergoing treatment for malaria and typhoid. I'm pregnant now and my husband just feels as if my taking one step or doing the usual routine work will make me start bleeding again. I've tried to encourage him that such fear is not of God and that I'm okay but he's just adamant. His mantra is 'you need rest' and this makes me even feel sick rather than happy. Please, what do I do?
The Panel replied Mrs. P. on 2011-08-18
Dear Mrs. P, We would like to reassure you that the status of a victor was conferred upon you when you accepted Jesus as your Saviour and your Lord. You must know that as a child of God, God cares about you more than you can ever imagine. He has promised to be with you always and that includes at pregnancy. That is why you must walk by faith and not by sight (your feelings) at this time and always. It is a time you must rely on the Word of God and not necessarily on other people’s experiences, as no two pregnancies are ever the same. Don’t also try to be a “super pregnant woman” because you have nothing to prove.
You must realise that the time of pregnancy is a time where you will experience a lot of changes in your body but by no means should you let fear into your heart. You and your husband must realise that pregnancy is a reward and a gift from God and that His blessings they make rich and do not add sorrow (Proverbs 10:22). Pregnancy, being a gift from God is not sickness. However, you must strike a balance by responding in wisdom to the changes that are taking place in your body without putting undue pressure on yourself to keep doing things the way you used to do when you were not pregnant.
It is by so doing that your victory will be made manifest.
Lekie Burabari Sigalo wrote on 04-12-2010
Awesome. That's the word I would use to describe the message on 'THE IN-LAWS PHENOMENON'. I was really blessed by the message, the questions asked and the various responses given to them. I am indeed blessed to be a part of this family. Thank you Pastors.
Anonymous wrote on 23-09-2010
Something brings it up and you ask one woman about orgasm and it is as if you have mentioned the unmentionable. Some do not honestly know what you are talking about. How does one teach other women the place of orgasm in their enjoyment of sex in marriage??
The Panel replied Anonymous on 2010-10-08
Dear Anonymous,
Your question is very timely as the last episode of Mothars Collection dealt with this and other related issues. You are encouraged to buy the CD of the message. For more information on this, please contact info@thecarpenterschurch.org or book and collect the CD from The Carpenter's Church, Greenville.
In general, the issue of female orgasm is one that is not often talked about. To break the cycle and shine the liberating light of God's Word into this area, both the woman and her husband need to be taught as they both have a role to play.
Wives need to realize however that they have a right to enjoy the fullness of life in every area and it is not ungodly to desire it. In cases where the ungodly practice of female circumcision has occurred, husbands and wives need to realize that vaginal orgasms are still possible with patience and true love and care.
folake okeiyi wrote on 31-08-2010
Every meeting produces an answer and a solution to EVERY mother's/wife's challenges in executing her role.
i especially thank God for the timeliness of these meetings in my married life and for the words of wisdom and grace that flow straight from his heart to mine through them. last sunday was just awesome.
thank you pastors for creating this forum.
Mrs. John wrote on 23-12-2009
Hi,
What do you do about your Spouse's insecurities that are affecting your marriage. Especially those he has admitted - do you just walk around them?, do you treat them like they are not there and do what you would anyway? How do you help him overcome them, especially if you do not see him working on them?
The Panel replied Mrs. John on 2010-01-07
I would suggest that you get one on one counsel where you would be able to give more details. Until then, just pray for wisdom to be real and free in your marriage and yet not be provocative since you know your husband's challenge. This is a delicate balance that one on one counsel will help you understand better.
Mrs. John wrote on 23-12-2009
These meetings have been great for me.
Gloria Akintoye wrote on 04-11-2009
The MoThaRs Collection seem to have been the reply to many a MoThaR because of the reception it got from inception till now. I believe it came at the best time too. For me as a mother and wife, it has settled a lot of those issues I usually felt was peculiar. I have come to learn that nothing is peculiar, we are all in it together and must stoop to learn from one another.
I can mention some classes that were heaven sent to me but one class that has turned my life around was the Balancing Act. These days when I seem overwhelmed I quickly go back there and draw strength. It has become like a Jerusalem- pilgrimage location of some sort to me. I recommend it to every and any wife and mother.
Make sure you attend the next class, you never can say what will be said until you are there.
I want to say thank you to my Men of God for this awesome move from the very belly of God. Thank you and see you all by the end of the month.
G. Akintoye.
Chinwe Amassoma wrote on 25-10-2009
Wao!! i have been so much blessed by every episode of the MoThaRs collection. The 'Balancing Act' simply teaches me that the experience is common to 'us' all and it's not by power & might but by His grace. There's no more stress in discharging my marital duties knowing that "One woman's stress is another's prayer point". What a revelation! How do I say thank you to our great men of God, Pastor Cee & Pastor Kech!
God bless you Pastors!
Mofe Ozimede wrote on 18-10-2009
I have really been blessed by these meetings and I thank God for our Pastors for setting this up. I have learnt a lot from these meetings and look forward to the end of the month for a new session.
Chinwe Ijezie wrote on 11-10-2009
Mothers collection has been a blessing to me. Not only do i now know that everything is possible-having career, managing the home, being a perfect wife and a mother......I know that relying on God will make it a whole lot easier, enjoyable and rewarding. What we learn from these meetings cannot be gotten anywhere else!!! Real, practical, honest, reliable, centered on God's word.....It is the "Ohms Law" for every married woman! Being a MothaR in TCC is a real blessing... God bless you Pastors!
Oke Ekere wrote on 30-09-2009
It’s been awesome all the way. Each programme so far leaves me lighter than I came in, fulfilling the words of Jesus from Matt 11:28. Am in his rest where grace is available for me.
For over 7 months I tried very hard to handle issues that required my attention (family, studies, Job, ministry …… the list seemed endless) not until “The Balancing Act” in MoTHaRs collection appeared on the scene. What a great difference that has made to my entire Life!
Can’t help but wonder how far I could have gone without that message. GOD IS GOOD. Thank you to Pastor.
Thank God for this privilege to be exposed to the true Life God wants us to enjoy in a VERY relax and friendly atmosphere, changing the core of our being.
Thank God for the ministry gift of our Pastors we are blessed to truly be the Master Piece.
Patricia Agha wrote on 28-09-2009
Being a relatively new wife, I have had some very real challenges balancing the new responsibilities of managing a home and husband alongside a full-time career. Even so, I have been so blessed by the insights shared in MoThARs collection meetings by all the speakers. I also really appreciate the level of forthrightness shown by those who share experiences and ask questions - you babes don't know how much you have blessed me - Thanks!
I am learning to lean on God's grace and have a 'can do' attitude - instead of feeling overwhelmed by it all. I am gradually feeling more confident in my role and willing to learn from whoever is doing it better. I look forward to every meeting and hope wives & mothers within and outside The Carpenter's ministries will take advantage of this free God-given 'kronje' shared every last Sunday of the month.
Thank you Pastor Cee & Pastor Nkechi for coinciding the commencement of the meetings with my marriage! 'Cos now I get to benefit by laying the right foundation from Day 1!
Iyowuna Okari wrote on 16-09-2009
I come across a lot of believers who have children when they are not ready, and shy away from contraception. Is contraception contrary to the word of God? If not what forms of contraception can believers use.
The Panel replied Iyowuna Okari on 2009-09-20
Contraception as a form of family planning within the marriage relationship is not wrong. It enables you to plan before bringing babies into this world. The Bible admonishes us in Luke 14:28-30 to count the cost before beginning any project - even the project of having babies.
We advise that a couple seeks medical counsel before choosing a method of family planning. They need to also find out if the method is preventive or if abortive. Abortive methods should not be acceptable to Bible believing Christians. Ask questions about the long-term effect of the preventive ones. If the first one chosen doesn't suit the couple they can try another. The method that works for a couple in their baby-making years, may need to be changed when they have stopped having babies.
The important thing in making the choice of method of family planning at any time in your marriage, is that both the husband and the wife should endeavour to be unselfish and in love, consider one another and the good of the family.
28 For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it?
29 Lest haply, after he hath laid the foundation, and is not able to finish it, all that behold it begin to mock him, 30 Saying, This man began to build, and was not able to finish.
Luke 14:28-30 (KJV)
Mrs. Gloria Eyikaivea-Ohaka wrote on 28-08-2009
From the debut episode of The MoThaRs Collection in April 2009 to the July episode(Fireproof movie), I have been tremendously blessed by every single episode!In May's edition, i went home with several stuff and my favorite mantra since then has been "GRACE IS AVAILABLE". Believe me, just saying this alone from my heart in the middle of a choking situation, gives me fresh energy & vigor. This was a revelation by Pastor Nkechi Ene as she taught us that evening. Sometimes our jobs as mothers, wives, and career women can be so overwhelming but we should always remember that "God's Grace is available". She made us understand that strength to function the way you ought to, comes from above. Also, the timely show of the movie "Fireproof" amongst other things reiterated the truth "Don't leave your partner behind in a fire". I am looking forward to this month's edition and many more to come. God bless Pastor Charles & Pastor Nkechi for setting up these timely family meetings.
